Mum’s the Word: 4 Things to Remember When Parenting Alone
Friday, March 27, 2015
No matter what the external circumstances are, parenting is never easy. On the other hand, parenting as a single mother is an entirely different kind of battle.
You do all the same things that regular parents do, except you do it all on your own. What is more, if you’re a woman, you also do all those things with everyone and their grandmother telling you, “You just need to meet a good man, and then it will be okay.”
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The messages in popular memes, TV shows and movies aren’t so encouraging either. According to the Lifetime movie network, single moms can be sure of just a few things:
1) Their life will include endless hours of waitressing or stripping, most likely both.
2) They are probably dating an escaped serial killer.
3) Their mascara will run (because it’s the cheap kind) every single night due to the hours dedicated toward crying over unpaid bills.
Even big budget films like “Labor Day” and “St. Vincent” continue to stereotype single mothers as women who, though charming and pretty, make wildly questionable decisions like harboring escaped convicts and/or letting alcoholics babysit their children because they are…well…desperate and dumb.
Thankfully, though, these stereotypes and expectations of single motherhood are not written in stone. I am here to tell you that we, the single mothers of America, have the power to change the single mother narrative.
Since becoming a single mother, I have found a new source of motivation. Having a daughter changed my life in a good way. I realized that every single moment is precious and that striving for my dreams is important not only for my emotional well-being, but for the message it sends to my daughter that women really can live abundant, beautiful lives no matter what life tries throw at them. I am exhausted much of the time, but I live each day with a passion and a purpose.
And yet, I will admit that I’ve had those days where I get off of work, ready to relax, only to have my daughter vomit all over my hair, clothes, body, and HAIR, while still demanding dinner and a bedtime story to boot. On those nights, I do kind of wish for a partner, and I cry a little knowing that tomorrow I will have to wake up and do all things those things over again with no respite.
Clearly, we’re not always going to be in a happy, empowered, “I am Oprah” kind of mood. So for those dark, vomit-filled nights, here are a few things to remember that will hopefully make you smile or even think, “Yes, I can do this, and I will do it all again tomorrow.”
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